In recent months I’ve heard the statement, perhaps in jest but a lot of truth is hidden in jokes, that if you want to be an “expert” you just need a blog. As snide as this comes off I would have to say it’s also misinformed and quite assumptive. blogger not expert
It begs me to ask, how would that person feel if I assumed some things about them from just saying that comment? Because it’s easy to immediately feel it comes off as a projected insecurity from a type of person who thinks they know it all and feels threatened when someone else tries to share a little bit of what they know.
That most likely wouldn’t feel good to hear but that’s just one possible assumption of why someone feels like they need to publicly state such a remark about bloggers. There’s also the possibility that they haven’t spent much time constructively thinking about why someone may want to have a blog. Well, I’m here to lay it out for anyone who may think blogs are a waste of bandwidth.
For starters, besides wanting to be on the right side of history by promoting the shattering of father stereotypes, the major reason I personally even co-started this blog was so that it forced me to learn. Yes, believe it or not, having a blog actually allows you to learn, not lecture. I knew all kinds of questions would come up as a father but I also knew that having a blog would motivate me to put in the hours required to get some realistic answers to those questions.
It forces me to sit down and do something I really enjoy, which is the second reason I decided to blog, research. I have always loved doing research on subjects that interest me. That may not be a popular feeling about research so it feels good to use a passion of mine to not only help others but to relieve them of something they may find burdensome.
It’s that investigating and exploration that’s required to learn more about a particular subject. However, instead of it all stopping there I knew if I could put everything I found and thought in one place I could come up with a more clear understanding. It’s almost like taking a painter-to-a-canvas approach where I could step away and see it as a whole picture when trying to come up with a finished piece.
Which comes to the third reason I started a blog, journaling. We’ve already discussed on this site how it’s important to journal because not only does it improve and sharpen writing skills but has shown to, “improve your own life along the way.” So instead of regurgitating all the great points in that article (which you should check out) I’ll tell you that I personally love writing.
I’ve written one book and started another just because I enjoy it. I also love having an outlet where I can put all my thoughts down in one place and come to a place of self-realization on things I’m thinking, or curious about, that perhaps I didn’t even know until I wrote it down.
The mysteries of the brain are beyond our understanding. Instead of trying to act like I know it all I thrive off the thought that there’s a lot I don’t know and that by just freely writing I can even unlock some things that are going on in my head and allow me to go down the rabbit hole of discovery from it.
So ultimately I wanted accountability on learning, researching, and writing. This blog allowed for that. However, when it comes to being an “expert” though, do I check enough of those boxes to allow me the right to blog? Let’s look into that a little further.
What exactly is an “expert”? By definition alone it says that an expert is, “a person who has a comprehensive and authoritative knowledge of or skill in a particular area.”
So what gives someone authoritative knowledge? Is it an academic degree? Maybe years of studying? Would a life of experience do it? Do you have to be able to make a living off of that particular field? Or perhaps it’s all of that combined. Whatever the definition of an “expert” is to that person who feels negatively towards others’ blogs doesn’t matter because at the end of the day they’re just excuses. Here’s why.
To What Degree?
If you talk to anyone who knows me they’ll tell you that I’m one of the most personable people they know. I’ll meet anyone, talk to anyone, find common interests within minutes and get genuinely excited about time spent with new people.
This blog is where I can open my heart up and try my best to communicate that with all of you. I also have two podcasts where I have to be able to clearly communicate my thoughts, humor, and experiences without saying, “um,” or, “uh,” every two seconds.
There was a time in sales where I quickly moved up the ladder and went from small personal product sales to massive investments and business products. All because I knew how to communicate clearly and personably.
I also worked in radio and marketing where I had to not only communicate to an audience but my clients as well.
All of this is possible because I know how to communicate and spent years of my life studying Communications. That said, does it help I have a degree in it? Maybe, but talk to anyone who has known me my whole life and they’ll tell you this is just who I am and who I’ve always been.
On top of that, I have times where I’m not exactly an “expert” because when you have a difference with me, and I pour my heart out honestly, the one thing I hear, as perhaps a bit of a passive-aggressive critique, is that it’s not what I’m saying but how I’m saying it. Showing I’m not exactly an “expert” at always communicating efficiently in particular moments which leads me to my next point.
Even with a degree and years and years of experience there’s always going to be someone with more knowledge and more experience, and ultimately more authority, than myself when it comes to radio, marketing, podcasting, sales, relationships…and being a dad.
What I’m getting at is the person who wants to critique a blogger will also never give that blogger any credit because they’ll just point out how there’s always someone else who knows more than them rendering the academic degree, experience, paycheck excuses as moot.
Now, where I will say we might be able to fulfill the “expert” definition is where it says, “or skill in a particular area,” and being a dad forces you to develop those skills immediately which is why some coward and run away from it. It’s not easy to be an adult who’s forced to learn how to raise a child to become the adult you intend them to be. Nonetheless, it’s a skill to be a dad and we’re all learning not only what to do but what not to do (which can be more important at times).
Got News For You
In the world of journalism and reporting, if it was true that you had to be an “expert” in any one field to write about it then newspapers, print in general, and most media would not exist.
See, it’s not the job of a reporter to BE the expert in any one field but instead to have the knowledge and experience in research, interviewing, compiling data, and come up with a platform for the reader/viewer/listener to have it presented to them clearly and concisely.
That’s what we’re doing, or at least attempting to, here at DaddyMindTricks.com. We’ve never professed to be expert dads with all the answers, hell as a dad I’m making it up as I go, but what we are doing is our best. Our best at gathering information from experts and pioneers who have gone before us, conducting interviews, reading forum after forum filled with other parents and what they’ve tried that both worked and didn’t work and why, depending on their unique circumstances, and then we compile that with our own thoughts and humor (because we’re not a horde of brainwashed zombies) to come up with something that hopefully helps save you hours and/or days of Googling. This, we hope, allows you to spend that time more constructively with your own family and maybe even play some video games while enjoying a little bourbon.
Are we here at DaddyMindTricks.com “experts”?
No, but we are the dads you’re looking for.